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Wired Tender to Engine Coupling
[video=youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b6AS5f8BVj0[/video]
Replacing a hook on a Train Car
[video=youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lwnawhiyyRg[/video]
Replacing a Coupler on an Engine
[video=youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4BiE9DkvFz0[/video]